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July 14th, 2005
02:13 pm - mom
i have a strange relationship with my mom. although she did raise me, i have no "real" memory of it since my parents divorced before i started elemetary school. so, for her to demand things from me as a mom, i don't really think she has a right to do.
she wants me to tell my dad's wife to not come to the wedding. but that's not what i want. i don't really care if she comes or not. i wish my mom would feel the same way. but for some reason that i can't understand, my mom really doesn't want her there. it's an honor isssue for her. that's fine as long as she is willing to deal with it, but no. she has to drag me into it and make me tell her not to come.. and i can't even tell her that it's because of my mom.. she wants me to tell her not to come as the "bride." WTF??
i'm not really stressed out about it b/c what good will that do. it'll work out in the end. but i hope no one's feelings get hurt. i hope my dad and his wife will be reasonable.. my mom is being unreasonable. i kind of wanted to tell her, you have no right to tell me this.
actually, my mom is very apologetic about it. she feels really bad asking me to do this.. but still she is asking me to do it.
sigh
any advice from married people out there who has had to deal with this bs?
my friend was in the same situation as me. but in her case, it was her dad's wife that got made cuz she wasn't asked "how she felt" about the situation. it took some begging to get her back to the wedding. i do NOT want to do that.
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| From: | ![[info]](http://l-stat.livejournal.com/img/userinfo.gif?v=92.2) peterhuang |
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| Date: | July 19th, 2005 03:20 am (UTC) |
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| | Just surfing through... | (Link) |
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My mom's godson went through a similar situation when he got married in June.
His mother did not want his stepmother to attend the wedding and since he didn't really like her anyways, he told his dad that his current wife was not invited to the rehearsal dinner, wedding or reception. I believe the dad protested, but saw his son's stubbornness and relented. Then again, his fiance's stepmom showed up and her real mother seemed to be okay with the potentially uncomfortable situation.
This doesn't sound like your situation since you're indifferent to it but your stepmother will probably understand if your dad and you talk to her about it. And even if she still wants to go, at least you made the effort and that's all your mother can ask of you. ![[User Picture]](http://l-userpic.livejournal.com/70783500/1205949) | | From: | so_yun |
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| Date: | July 19th, 2005 11:13 pm (UTC) |
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| | Re: Just surfing through... | (Link) |
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thanks for sharing! I wish my mom wil be like your friend's fiance's mom and be "OK" with whatever happen.. but seems like she is more like your friend's mom and will insist that the dad's new wife not come... |
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